Well...It's that time of year again. Time to reflect on the last year and look forward to a new one. You may be excited to have a fresh start and are ready to make some changes to your health, relationships or your life in general. You may also be dreading the thought of a New Year's resolution. If you are part of the latter group it is likely that you have made some of these mistakes in the past. Here are five ways to wreck your New Year's resolutions and what you can do to be more successful this year.
1. DON'T TELL ANYONE
By keeping your resolutions to yourself you are missing out on some needed accountability and encouragement. You can tell a close friend or even share it on social media for some major accountability.
2. COPY SOMEONE ELSE'S RESOLUTION
One of the best ways to ruin a resolution is to make it because someone else did and you think you should too. If the change is not something you really want or need it will be easy to back out of later. Instead, look at areas of your life that you really want to be different. (Maybe it involves not comparing yourself to others).
3. MAKE THE GOAL UNREALISTIC
We often get so excited to make changes that we create goals for ourselves that automatically set us up for failure. Instead, think about how you will feel six months from now and if you will still be motivated to go to the gym six days a week. Break that big goal down into smaller steps that you can reasonably achieve and will make you feel successful along the way.
4. BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR EVERY MISTAKE
It is easy to get discouraged when you beat yourself up for not meeting your goals or having an off day. It's hard enough to make positive changes in your life without the added negativity. Instead, take responsibility for your choice and decide to do it differently next time. If you keep making the same mistake, it may be time to re-evaluate your goal and make it more realistic if necessary.
5. DOWNPLAY YOUR SUCCESSES
Making a life change takes time. Each time you choose to follow through with your resolution is a success that deserves to be celebrated. Thank yourself for making a good choice and maybe even reward yourself for having a certain number of success each month (or week).
Surround yourself with people who will encourage you on your journey to positive change and visualize how good it will feel next year to look back at how far you've come.
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